tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20010349.post8371232790008400091..comments2023-10-22T05:29:00.184-05:00Comments on The tales of Mama D: Poor HorseMama Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13581319298585887199noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20010349.post-22667889558650853062007-07-12T23:02:00.000-05:002007-07-12T23:02:00.000-05:00I have so much to say on this topic that I can't e...I have so much to say on this topic that I can't even organize my thoughts! For me, the jealousy is of people who have a wonderful pregnancy. I was so miserable, emotionally and physically. The 40 pounds I still have left to lose is a contant reminder of that time too.<BR/><BR/>When Ethan was born I felt fantastic. You would have hated me! It felt so great not to be nauseous and in pain, and actually be able to feel full after eating! And I had this cute little bundle that I wanted to show off. I had expected and prepared for the worst after Ethan was born, but luckily for me reality was much better than what I had prepared for. However, after a few weeks on a high things started to get rougher. On more than one occasion Cam came home to find me in tears with my shoes on and purse in hand, passing him the baby as I walked out the door, no destination in mind, just needing to get out of the house and away from my screaming monster!<BR/><BR/>I think we all do the best we can, and hormones and lack of sleep really mess with a person. Those mom's who do so well seem to be the ones with those "easy" babies who eat and sleep well. I think the fact that you did struggle will only make you a better mom. The fact that you had so many issues and still pressed through and breastfed is amazing to me, and something that a lot of moms would not ahve been able to do.<BR/><BR/>I've talked to a lot of moms since having Ethan and every one of them has had at least one moment where they've told their husbands/boyfriends to take the baby before they kill it!<BR/><BR/>Anyways, I'm just rambling, but I do understand where you're coming from. I know I want another child but I'm terrified of being pregnant again. Not of the physical as much as the emotional, especially with Ethan now. I don't want him to see his mommy as such a mess and I'm afraid of how the depression could affect all of our relationships! But I think preparing for the possibility and knowing what to look for is a huge step towards preventing and treating it!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20010349.post-14110521369847995022007-07-12T08:02:00.000-05:002007-07-12T08:02:00.000-05:00Oh, I understand where you're coming from. I didn'...Oh, I understand where you're coming from. I didn't expect to get PPD — of my family, I am the one who has never had to deal with depression, so I figured I was in the clear. I was completely blindsided by it. Thankfully, my bout was fairly brief, but it continues to haunt me. I don't think I have fully dealt with my feelings that I wasn't a very good mom or wife during that time and it is one of the things that's making me feel like one kid is it for us — because this time if I went off the rails, I'd have a whole extra little person to traumatize.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20010349.post-41192513533305411962007-07-11T12:17:00.000-05:002007-07-11T12:17:00.000-05:00Also remember that although a person/family appear...Also remember that although a person/family appears to have it all together doesn't mean they really do. Not saying the family yesterday isn't happy but you never know, maybe you caught them at a good moment.Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10795520588490925799noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20010349.post-71655850011911320402007-07-11T10:49:00.000-05:002007-07-11T10:49:00.000-05:00It is such a pervasive myth that mothers are insta...It is such a pervasive myth that mothers are instantly smitten with their babies when they're born--you just don't necessarily have that happen! Coupled with a wicked dose of hormones...well, try not to beat yourself up about it too much. Hormones make us do and feel all sorts of crazy things. The thing to do is recognize that you are still a wonderful person, a wonderful mother, and that it is a good thing to get yourself the help you need if you need it. Realizing now that you may need help the next time around is an excellent realization to have had. You're so much wiser and better prepared for next time.Sugarmamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04425625624997484305noreply@blogger.com